Uncoupling & Co-parenting Sessions
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The Co-Parenting Relationship is fraught with difficulties. It is a relationship that needs to undergo a series of changes to go from one with romantic and sexual components, to one that is based on trust for the best interests of our children. There may have been injuries to the relationship that has damaged the trust. Trusting each other with our kids can be threatening, because we love our kids and our relationship with them really matters. This is a relationship of uncertainties and ambiguities because of all the movings parts, and because we don’t really know what it is supposed to look like. We may experience that there is no societal roadmap, and we may have few inspiring role models in our social networks.
These changes are often negotiated over years as the relationship continues to change and mature into its new role, while the kids grow older and new partners may enter into the picture. It is not for the faint of heart. It is for parents who are both committed to go through the discomfort of understanding the relationship patterns with their ex and co-parent in a way that will favour how they can work together within a framework of trust and compassion. This is not for co-parents where there has been explicit physical or emotional abuse, or where one partner may be unable to connect caringly.
In these sessions we explore what it takes to create a healthy, supportive and nurturing relationship where you can still have the courage to care for each other. It is a non-traditional approach where we bring light to invisible expectations, boundaries, difficulties, competition, and the importance of maintaining a strong parenting alliance. We will discuss the losses you are experiencing, which can be devastating and yet often go unnoticed by our concsious mind. Shared values, boundaries, forgiveness, self-acceptance, and the subconscious contracts that you need to let go of. My goal is to walk alongside you as you learn how to get along better than when you were married, and create a family constellation that brings you love and joy for all involved.
This work uses the framework of EFT relationship therapy, and is inspired by Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After by Katherine Woodward Thomas.